About The Red Couch - for better relationships
Healthy, satisfying relationships don’t just happen. They require ongoing attention and nurturing. Love is a verb, its active – continually created (or underminded) by dozens of day-to-day actions and behaviours. Problems that are not faced cause more difficulty. If ruptures are not addressed and repaired, couples distance themselves and gradually disconnect from each other.
All couples experience difficulties, and when resolved well, these episodes can be growthful and healing, deepening friendship, trust and intimacy. Long term relationships are not for the faint-hearted. We need to be able to keep our balance when our partner loses theirs. We need to face our shadows and demons, be willing to challenge ourselves and be prepared to grow up. The good news is that a committed relationship is an ideal opportunity to do this.
Counselling can also provide support to couples navigating changing life circumstances such as a new baby, altered work situations, illness or other major upheavals. Lilliana’s approach is to share effective ways of communicating and give tools that support both self-awareness and connection so that clients continue to grow their capacity for differentiation and intimacy and develop their relationship skills beyond the consulting room.
In crisis situations, counselling can help a couple move beyond pain and defence, to explore their own patterns, expectations and history and how this has contributed to their current situation. Counselling is a safe place to discover whether trust can be repaired, and if not, it can help support both parties to separate with less hostility and more understanding.
Lilliana also works with divorcing couples and those who have separated and want to collaborate well for their children. This work can ease suffering, increase understanding and both parties learn valuable relationship skills that support the ongoing co-parent relationship, and increase their confidence and capacity for new intimacy.
When you know better, you do better